Birds of a Feather

A fellow area trainer posted a picture on Facebook with this caption:

“In my heaviest obese days, I had friends who’d say ‘You’re fine just the way you are’. These are not friends. Real friends will tell you the TRUTH because they love you and want to see you healthy. And if your friends are as big as you or bigger saying that, listen to me: misery loves company. Find friends who want to go to the Superbowl, not ride the bench!! Birds of a feather can not always flock together.” – Joannes Williams we are inferno empowerment. defined.  www.theinfernofitness.com

Does this sound familiar? We tend to pick friends that are similar to us, which is not always a bad thing.  We share the same interests, and have a lot in common, and that’s why we enjoy each other’s company. However when it comes to weight loss, having overweight friends can actually derail your weight loss efforts!

I have a friend that started attending my Boot Camp classes while she was overweight. She told me that when she encouraged some of her friends to come with her, their main reason for not coming was they did not want to be “shown up” by a bunch of skinny people.  They preferred working out together.  My friend jokingly asked her friends how that plan was working for them? Obviously they were still overweight. Together. She told them that if they wanted to work hard and see results, then they should work out with people that have worked hard and seen results.

I’m definitely not suggesting that you need to abandon your friends in order to reach your weight loss goals!  But you do need to look around you.  Do all of your friends have the same bad habits that got you to where you are today? Are you friends honest with you, or do they simply tell you what you want to hear? Do they encourage you to stay just the way you are? A lot of times our friends are afraid of losing us if we reach our goals. Do your friends have the same goals as you at the moment? Certainly if your friends are ready to take steps to a healthier lifestyle, doing this together can make it a LOT easier on all of you. After all, There Is Power In Numbers. But if you are the only one in your group of friends that is ready to make this change, then it’s probably a good idea to find a different group of people that can help you get to where you want to be.

Start surrounding yourself with people that are living healthy lifestyles. Learn from them. Try a group fitness class – it’s a great way to meet new people with like-minded goals!  And who knows, you may just be that influence your friends need to jump on board!

This is a great post that elaborates on the people closest to us sabotaging our weight loss efforts. “They Are Sabotaging My Weight Loss!