You have decided to make healthy changes in your life. You are eating right and exercising regularly, and the people that you thought would support you the most are actually sabotaging your efforts! You know the ones – the friends that tell you to “just have a little piece, you only live once!”, or that family member that says “don’t be rude, eat some of aunt sally’s pie.”, and those co-workers that just love to poke fun at your efforts “hope you’re enjoying your lettuce over there while I eat my fries.” We all have these people in our lives, and if getting healthy isn’t hard enough on your own, they certainly don’t help! So how do you “battle” these people without hurting their feelings? After all, it’s usually the ones closest to you, so you can’t just avoid them. There’s always a work lunch, or a family get together, or a baby shower, or a night out with the guys, or a girls night out to attend…How can you stick to your new habits and reach your goals with all these people working against you?
First of all, you need to realize that these people are not usually TRYING to sabotage your efforts. Most of the time, they are just not used to the changes that you are making. A lot of the time, they are jealous that they don’t have the same resolve and determination to be healthy. Very rarely someone close to you is actually afraid of you getting healthy – that is a different issue altogether.
Respond to your friends with a positive comment about yourself, instead of a negative comment about them or the action they want you to do – “I am working on my health, and I feel amazing!” They might be afraid that you have changed as a person. Let them know that you are simply trying to be the best you, and it’s awesome. Don’t attack them, simply state that you are choosing to be healthy, and change the subject. After a while, your friends/family will decide that you are serious about your new lifestyle, and they will stop making these comments. Most of them will start to support your efforts because they love you and really do want what’s best for you.
When attending a party or a dinner in someone’s home, try to make wise choices with what they are offering. Don’t make a huge fuss, turn your nose up, or ask for special things. You don’t want to look like you feel that you are better than them. Simply decide that this one meal isn’t going to kill your whole plan, and enjoy yourself in moderation – just don’t attend a dinner party every week or you might get off track. 🙂
Find an accountability and encouragement group! Surrounding yourself with like-minded people, even if it’s only on Facebook, will keep you motivated and help you keep going in the midst of some not so helpful hints. 😉 (This is why I ALWAYS offer an online support group with all of my challenges – it’s so much easier with a group lifting you up!)
Finally, let your results speak for you! Once the people around you see the results of your healthy lifestyle – weight loss, better skin/hair, more energy, etc – they might just ask you to help them get started! The most important thing to remember is WHY you have chosen to be healthy. Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do it – instead make a visual that helps you focus on your why and put it somewhere that you see often! Stick to your efforts, and you will reach your goals! (And I’m sure you will inspire others along the way!)
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