If you missed Lady Gaga’s halftime performance during Super Bowl LI and just read the social media posts about it, you probably took this away from it “wow, she killed that performance but her stomach rolls were so distracting. She should have covered her stomach.” WHAT?!! Before you read on, make sure you have actually seen the performance so you can understand what I’m about to talk about. View it in it’s entirety HERE.
Now, I don’t know about you, but when I watched that all I could think was “WOW! She jumped off the roof and then totally KILLED it! Her voice is phenomenal! What an AWESOME show and she looks AMAZING!” But the internet does what it does best (reducing women to nothing more than their body) and tore into Gaga’s outfit change mid-performance.
First of all, Gaga looks absolutely stunning and screams healthy body confidence! It’s empowering to see someone on such a public stage celebrate her (granted, ridiculously fit) body. But the internet wasn’t having it. (I will not give any of the horrendous shamers a spot on my blog by reposting their hate. I suggest that you don’t give them a spot in your brain by reading their crap either.)
We wonder why eating disorders and dangerous weight loss drugs and plastic surgeries are so prevalent among women. Or why women are obsessed with achieving that (completely unattainable) “perfect” body. Women and young girls see this gorgeous performer, and may relate to her because of her real body, but then are immediately told over and over again on the internet that this gorgeous real body is not enough and should have been covered up. They look down and see that they too have a real body and feel ashamed. And let’s not forget that this real body we are talking about is INCREDIBLY fit! What then do people struggling with their weight feel about themselves, that even this very not overweight body is being told “you are not enough”. It brings me to tears! WHY are we even talking about her body in the first place?! Why do women not get to do anything without it coming back to “but let’s talk about her body”?!
Women: YOU ARE ENOUGH! Tall, short, muscular, overweight, thin…YOU are enough! But here’s the catch: you have to believe that. You have to LOVE your body just as you are! If changing your body is what you want, it HAS to come from a place of LOVE. If you want to be healthy and fit, it can’t come from a place of hate. Think about it – if you hate something why would you want to take care of it? But think about something you love (your kids, your spouse, your parents, your pet, your car or even your favorite pair of shoes). Don’t you want to take care of it? Fall in love with yourself, your body and all it’s “flaws”, and you’ll want what’s best for it. I choose to make healthy food choices and to move my body every day. You know why? Because I LOVE myself! And I take care of, and want what’s best for, the people and things that I love.
I also stay far far away from people or magazines or anything else that body shames on the regular. It’s really hard to read things like what people were saying about Gaga without letting it sink in. So just stay away from it! Maybe you need to unfollow some accounts, maybe you even need to unfollow some friends. Maybe it’s needing to cancel a magazine subscription or to stop watching certain shows. Do what it takes to get those ridiculous, FALSE beliefs out of your life. And don’t be afraid to post those selfies girls! Love yourself and celebrate your beauty! You are more than just a body, but your body is amazing! Don’t be shamed into hiding it! Read why I’m a Selfie Queen HERE.
Lady Gaga, you are SO SO talented and you ROCKED that halftime show!! And not that it matters what I (or ANYbody) think about your body, but your body is BANGIN!
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